Thursday, June 25, 2015

Happy Belated Anniversary to LT and I

Oh my gosh! I can't believe I totally forgot my anniversary with LT! (He did too)

It was 5 years ago on June 18 that we went out on that first date. Join me on our journey.

Our first vacation together in Houston
Let me set the stage: I was previously married for 6 years and they were up and down. Mostly down because we lived in Georgia were his parents moved and it just wasn't joyful to be with them. We moved back to Kansas for a year and then, unbeknownst to me, he left and went back to Georgia. While it was painful and hurtful, especially when I felt I was blindsided, I picked up myself and just kept moving forward. I did not know why this happened: no explanation, no blame. Of course he thought I would follow him. Little did he know me! After two years we finalized our divorce. So I was pretty sour on relationships, men and all that stuff. I just focused on school and getting a degree.

I moved to Texas to finish my school and did date. But what I did was I dated only during the summer and cut it off before school started. I never invested and I was the one who always ended the relationship. I didn't want it to happen to me again so I controlled it. It was like that for years…10+ years in fact. I also didn't really go out with long term guys. It was more of I just need someone disposable if you will.

I dated this one guy and it was going ok. We decided to take a vacay to San Antonio. Prior to our trip, I had let him know he was getting too clingy and needy and to back it down. His and my definition of backing off were not the same. Needless to say we take our trip and on the last day I told him I just couldn't keep seeing him. I suck, I know. But I just had to do it. I couldn't take another second! It was an awkward car ride back for sure.

Then I started to "actively" look. It took a while and not many princes were out there. Most were jokers. Then I just was like "screw it. I am done." But like many, I was back out there a few weeks later and then I meet HIM. I am such a screwball. When he asked for my number I said "what the heck, let's see where this goes." I invested myself, didn't I? LOL. Our first date was out to dinner then to The Londoner for darts and a beer. I figured out he was a keeper after our second date at the zoo, outside, in 100+ degree Texas weather. Yes, I sweat like a pig about to be butchered. It didn't bother him, so I thought "this is it!". LOL

5 years later, I have a pretty sparkly on my finger and a fiancé in my life who is amazing. It took a lotta crap to wade through to find him. I wouldn't trade him in for anyone else. I love his sense of humor (I am rarely mad at him because he always makes me laugh out my mad), the way he takes care of us (except when I am driving but we are working on it), his love of my parents and joy of listening to dad's endless stories that I have heard literally a million times, and his acceptance of who I am but is encouraging.

I do not know when we will get married. I am ready for that next step because I want it out of the way and for medical reasons (his job being a firefighter for one thing). What I realized was this pretty little sparkly has not changed us and how we act with each other and who we are. I think that was a concern. We both have baggage that we are trying to overcome and it does sneak in and cause little issues, but we do work through them. I have found in our trials together what the term cleaving to one another really means.

If you are out there thinking there is no one for you, or why does some people of quality way less than yours finds a guy but you haven't, don't give up. God has a plan for you. I am not stating this lightly. I truly believe God has a plan and it will be unveiled as we go along. I hate some of the things I have had to experience (my mom's passing) but looking on the positive side, I can see a blessing in it…after the fact.

I know I gave you more than you wanted to read, but I just felt I needed to get it out. Maybe I am working through some crap, I don't know. But I appreciate you hanging in there and following along. Good things are going to happen in your life. Always look for the positive, always give thanks to God (for the good and the bad), and always tell yourself you got this because you really do. It just may take a little longer than you wanted.

Wednesday, June 24, 2015

Hodgepodge Wednesday is Back!

As always, thank you Joyce from This Side of the Pond for your time and your questions! Join me for today's Hodgepodge! I would love to hear your answers!





1. June 23rd is National Pink Day. What's your favorite something pink?

Something pink? I do have some decorations that are pink, but can't think of anything I have that IS pink. Isn't that funny? I love pink but do not own anything pink! 

Wait, I have it! Strawberry cake (or cupcakes!). Oh and pink gelato (strawberry) from Italy.

2. What did you enjoy most about gym class when you were in school? How about the least?

Enjoyed: "Shower Power!" That is what our gym teacher would say. That meant it was OVER!  
Hated: Gym class. I am not athletic: never have been, never will be. I hated everything about it and am glad it is over! LOL 

3. What memory is brought to mind by the smell of roses?

I really don't desire roses…won't deny them, but don't ask for them. The memory I have about roses is when my ex-husband left me and then wanted to get back together and he sent me the only roses he ever sent. I'm like, WTH?! So I don't have good memories of them. 

On a side note, it has been 20 years at least since we divorced and I have never talked to him. So what does he do last week? Asked to be my friend of FB. WTH? No, just no, nope, never, and whatever made you think I would accept? Honestly, I found it more humorous than anything else. 

Thanks for the memories, roses!

4. Do you prefer to read or write?

Both! I wish that I could write a novel or book. Nothing big or lengthy. I do have something percolating but have not started it. I like to tell people I have a BS in BS! That is what is great about writing. But I love to read on my Kindle Paperwhite. Best present LT ever gave me. 

I guess I should have prefaced, I am an English teacher so I enjoy and promote both!

5. Sam Keen is quoted as saying, 'Deep summer is when laziness finds respectability.'Would you agree? Is laziness ever respectable? How will you be lazy this summer?

Working as a teacher AND doing summer school, I totally agree that laziness is respectable…for us. We have earned the right to take it easy. And to be honest, we are never completely lazy. We are always preparing for next year. If you work, it is respectable to be lazy. If you don't work you already ARE lazy so, no respectability….UNLESS you are retired. They you EARNED it…enjoy it!

How will I be lazy? Teaching summer school only takes up half my day so I end up going home and taking a nap! I guess I just don't do lists of things that need to be done or cleaned like some would in the summer. I just want to relax, revitalize and refresh for next year. A beach would help with that but not happening. We are doing a lot of concerts so I guess that and visiting my dad in Oklahoma and hopefully getting him out and explore the area.

6. The Florida Keys, Disney World, or a resort somewhere on the Gulf Coast...which Florida destination would you choose (and why) if the trip were today?

Easy, Ft Walton/Pensacola area and it would be a resort…all inclusive resort. I love the beach and I want the best view of the ocean. Plus it is closer to Texas and I can be there sooner to enjoy! 

7. What question do you hate to answer?

Right now it is "How's your mom?" Not everyone knows she passed away in April so it is still so fresh and painful to have to replay it over and over.

8.  Insert your own random thought here.

Now that you brought up laziness, relaxing and beaches, I am really tired of doing summer school. I want to relax and hear the waves and reading a book! First session of summer school will not get here soon enough. Hope I have the energy and desire to go back to second session!!

Tuesday, June 23, 2015

Wild Weekend Part 2: Rain, Rockslides and Flooding….Oh My!

Thank you Mother Nature for yet another round of deluging rain. The Red River (borders Texas and Oklahoma) was flooded over the weekend. The water was up to the bridge. Thankfully it never crossed over nor did it close I35! Yay! 

With all the rain, water under bridges have been an obstacle, not just the Red River. There were many other bridges I had to cross with water rushing right underneath. Luckily we didn't get any more rain or we would have had water over the bridges! Oklahoma has been getting their fair share, that is for sure!


However, Mother Nature was not done with her handy work. Between Ardmore and Davis in Oklahoma, there was a rock slide that shut down I35 northbound. Knowing this, I took a detour and found some nature's finest that I want to explore in Chickasaw national Recreation Center. I heard some waterfalls so that means I need to explore it! 

Baby Niagara Falls
Coming home I35 southbound, I knew it was opened, I just didn't know it was only one lane. We got backed up for at least an hour, but great news…I got to see the rock slide! What do you do when you are stuck on the interstate? Take pictures of course!

Look at the line of cars behind me!
There are just as many in front of me too.
Rock slide! They cleared the debris in
the road. You can see trees on
the ground from the slide.
Another shot of the rock slide
You can see the big crack a little to
the right of center. That is the issue.
They think that huge chunk
a chunk a could still
come down.
See that humongous crack? It goes
almost to the ground! Should
they shore it up or blast it?
There is a huge crack, or fissure, on the side and those in the know are trying to decide what to do with it. Either way, I35N is still closed and it is still a one way either direction. I am going to know the countryside of Oklahoma before it is all over!

Remember to stay safe my friends and enjoy the countryside you see. When you get off the beaten path, a whole new world opens up to you!

Monday, June 22, 2015

Wild Weekend Part 1!

As you know, I travel to Oklahoma City area to be with my dad. I just love hanging out with him. He and I share the same sense of humor and we are always laughing. Since mama has passed, there has not been much laughter in his life. I am hoping to change that.

Anyway, daddy had to have a heart catheter to check out any blockage in his heart. He finally agreed to go on Friday when all of his girls would be able to be there. He did awesome!! The doctor did find one little blockage and decided to put in a stint. So daddy only need one stint! He did need to stay overnight in the hospital because they gave him meds to thin the blood and prevent clotting. I appreciate the attention they gave him.

The cool thing was the compression used after the surgery. The doctor went through daddy's wrist to check out his heart and to insert the stint. Usually there is a nurse that will hold a compress on the wound for 30 mins or so after the surgery. Now, they use a compression box (that is my name for it). There is a clear plastic box that was over daddy's wound with a wrap around the wrist to hold it in place. In the box, was air pressing on the wound so a nurse did not have to stand and hold it. The nurse would come in and slowly take some air out using a syringe until all the air is out (not sure how long it took).

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This wasn't daddy's. I actually did not take a picture
of it (and am kicking my patootie ever since)
Daddy had these compression socks that were hooked up to a mating to pump air into the socks. When we unhooked him to walk, he had this tubes trailing behind him. It made me thing of the Raptor dinosaur. We had a good laugh! He stayed overnight and got out the next day.

"The Raptor"
Father's Day was just time spent with family and a home cooked meal. It is exactly what daddy loves to do.

Stay tune to tomorrow when I talk about getting to and from OKC due to some rain, flooding and rock slides! Fun times and wild rides and never a dull moment!

Wednesday, June 17, 2015

Hurricane On Land?

Tropical Storm Bill has arrived in Dallas! Doesn't he look like a loose hurricane?

I just love technology. We are able to see what this looks like on our phones at any point not just on the TV during the news!

Just had to share this photo with yall!

Tuesday, June 16, 2015

Mother Nature is At It Again!

Hello Tropical Storm Bill (does that sour weird or is it me?). Texas would like you to move along to another state. Alas, you will do what you will and you have decided to see what Dallas, Texas is like in June, huh?

Well, Texas welcomes you but we ask that you do not litter in our state, nor leave the forecasted amount of rain. We have had our share, thank you very much.

Texas is just starting to dry out and our lakes and rivers are finally going down…slowly, but going down. Now that we are forecasted for more rain, what will happen to Texas? Will we float away?

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As you can see, the projected path of TS Bill. They say the right hand side of the storm is the worst and will have the most rain. So, yup, Dallas is in for a possible gully washer! The weather peeps are talking about 3-4 inches of rain, flash flooding and possible isolated tornados. We are batten down the hatches where I live and getting prepared for rain…not flooding or evacuation... just rain.

I leave you with these thoughts of our imminent deluge…

…two weeks after getting multiple feet of rain, my back yard has cracks in the ground. WTH?
…I love to tell people "Turn around, don't drown!" It just rolls off my tongue!
…I won't be able to go to my favorite Mexican restaurant because the road will be flooded.
…There will be idiots out there not doing what is asked and will eventually end up in danger (putting my man and other first responders in danger) and will then be on the news. LT would call them "hickory nuts"
…please don't go out in bad weather. It is not worth the stress and possible consequence. Stay home, stay alive. (Hey that is a new saying!)
…Little Man better stay inside. I hate the smell of stinky dog!

Wish us luck in Texas and pray that LT doesn't get overtime and can come home!

Monday, June 15, 2015

A Man With a Tool

He stood there with an electrical outlet in one hand and a screwdriver in the other. I knew we were in for a ride.

My job was turning the circuit breaker on and off… and sitting back to enjoy the show.

I would like to tell you it was a show, but it really turned out uneventful and boring. Yes, LT got the outlet in the living room changed from a regular outlet to a surge protector outlet. It involved swearing, YouTube videos and a call to a good friend at work. In the end he got the outlet grounded and working!

I have total faith in my man. He has proved over and over he knows what he is doing. But sometimes there is a part of me that is nervous or even a little sadistic thinking "this is gonna be a show, where's the popcorn?". In the end, LT is a handy, handyman. Thankfully he will do the other outlets tomorrow, during the day (unlike Sunday when he did it at night and had the lights in the living room turned off with the breaker!).

I wonder…
...what the rest of the week is going to be like?
...what I am in for when I come home from teaching Summer School?
...will be blog worthy?

No matter what, we got this!

Thursday, June 4, 2015

My Thoughts on Thursday

Caitlyn Jenner on Vanity Fair Magazine

Vanity Fair

Ok, so here are my thoughts on the first transgender on the cover of Vanity Fair.

Is it really being brave to pose on the cover of Vanity Fair? Everyone is spouting how brave it was for Caitlyn to come out and pose. Have we not been seeing the transformation as it was happening in the media? How brave is it when she will have her OWN docu-series on EW called "I Am Cait"?

When I think of bravery I think of soldiers, police and firefighters, those how have survived beatings and kidnappings. Yes, it could be said that Cait posing is brave, to put herself out there for criticism but that is what everyone does everyday. What I think might be considered brave is Vanity Fair putting the first transgender on the cover of their magazine. That could be revolutionary and game changing.

But how about this…when are we going to see and embrace the plus size female model? I guess it is ok in society to be a former man changed to a woman but it is still not ok to be overweight or anywhere close to the "ideal" woman. It hags me off that society will embrace transgender (there is nothing wrong with it) but it will not embrace overweight women. Just another way media and society are scarring women and our youth. Media is saying as long as you are beautiful and the ideal body proportion, you are acceptable in society.

I don't think ANYONE should be judge on their body (trust me I do enough judging of my own body I don't need the media or anyone else taking shots at me and helping me have lower self esteem issues).

I could really care less about Caitlyn Jenner, her magazine cover or even her life before of after Caitlyn. I don't care if she is a man, woman, or wants to dress act like a kitty cat. That is her life. I just hate how the media shapes our society and let's us know what is acceptable and what isn't.

I am also sad for Bruce Jenner. He made some amazing triumphs throughout his life, was an Olympian and was iconic. He will be lost of those achievements. Caitlyn can not be credited to those accomplishments as they are not hers. Now she will be judged by her appearance not her accomplishments.

Kinda funny in a way. It is like what goes around comes around. She put her self on the cover of a magazine to come out to the world as a new woman, yet it will be the media who will tear her apart. Who knows. Maybe Caitlyn will be the woman to change woman's image in the media.





Tuesday, June 2, 2015

Holy Hodgepodge!

Yep, you guessed it…HODGEPODGE WEDNESDAY! Joyce, From This Side of the Pond, has whipped out her trusty questions and on with the show! I hope you all have enjoyed our Wednesdays. I know I have! If you want to join us, please do!

With that being said, Joyce is moving (yay and scary!) so there will be NO Hodgepodge June 10. Totally understandable and we are wishing Joyce an easy and quick move!




Drum roll please…..

1. What's something you're looking forward to in the month of June?
Let's see…Going to two concerts: The Rolling Stones and Whitesnake. I will also be taking care of Daddy more this month. It is the month of Father's Day, but it would have also been his 56 wedding anniversary following Mama's passing in April. This will be hard on him and I (and the family) will want to ease it for him. Other than that, I will be teaching summer school but will also have time to relax. Not exciting, huh?

2. In what way have you come full circle?


The first thing I think of is taking care of my mama and now, in a way, my daddy. They were always there taking care of us, helping us, and now we had/have to do for them. I wouldn't have it any other way. 

3. Lonely Planet lists 10 spots in America you should see in 2015 and the reasons why. How many on the list have you seen? Which one on the list would you most like to see?

Queens NY, Western South Dakota, New Orleans, Colorado River Region, North Conway NH, Indianapolis IN, Greenville SC, Oakland CA, Duluth MN, and the Mount Shasta Region CA

Let's see, I am a traveller and…

1. I have been to Rapid City, SD for Mt Rushmore. Will that count as "Western South Dakota"? 
2. We took Mama and Daddy to New Orleans before Hurricane Katrina. 
3. I fell in love with North Conway NH on leaf peeping vacation Fall 2012 and can't wait to go back!
4.  I can't claim Oakland because I only used it as a place to sleep before flying out the next day. Nor can I claim Queens even though I go to NY every year (only stay in Manhattan cause we are wussy women and don't venture past SoHo!)
5. Lastly, we vacationed 2013 in Northern California and went to Lassen National Volcano National Park for the day. Had I realized we were only an 1 1/2 away from Mt. Shasta, we would have ventured up there a little too! Dang it!

Now I know other destinations we need to travel to, especially after looking at the pictures!

4. A song that describes your mood right now?


It doesn't describe my mood, but my students have been singing "Black Betty" by Ram Jam so that song is on my mind and I can't get rid of it!!

5. Strawberry ice cream, strawberry short cake, strawberry pie, or strawberries right off the vine...your favorite? 


Hmmm if I made it, strawberries off the vine. If is was given to me…strawberry pie, but totally love strawberry cake!! Has anyone else had it?

6. Aesop's birthday is celebrated on June 4th, although there is some disagreement as to whether or not that's accurate, or if he was even a real person. Regardless, the name Aesop is associated to this day with many well known fables. Which of the following best applies to something in your life right now? The Tortoise and the Hare (Slow and Steady wins the race), The Ant and the Grasshopper (Be prepared), The Fox and the Goat (Look before you leap) or The Crow and the Pitcher (Necessity is the mother of invention)?


Definitely The Tortoise and the Hare and The Ant and the Grasshopper. Being the end of the school year, my students returning on track and our high school graduation is on June 4th, both of these fables can be used. I think they are self explanatory, don't you?

7. The answer is yes...what's the question?

Will you give me a million dollars?

8. Insert your own random thought here.

You will get ADD if you are around anyone that is ADD. Just Saying….

I Stayed Up to Watch That!?

I question my decisions all the time. Let me be honest, I speak to myself as well and yes, occasionally (more often than not) I do answer myself as well. So how did I end up staying up until 1 am watching the Twilight Series?

Something you need to know about me….I don't jump on the bandwagon of movies and books. I have never read any of the major series: Twilight, Harry Potter, 50 Shades, Divergent, Hunger Games. Nor have I went the movies to see them or rented them. I guess I have a little rebel in me. I will be honest and say that I finally have watched the first movie of Twilight, Divergent and some of the Hunger Games. Other than, I haven't watched any others. I even feel my life it rounder and more robust because of it (enter canned laughter). Last night there was nothing on so what did I do…


...watched the rest of the Twilight series on TV. I guess since my booty was in such a state of euphoria being in the semi-upright recliner and the channel already attuned to that station, I just sat there and watched. And watch and watched and watched.

Now that it is over, I can cross it off of my list of whatevers. It was ok to watch. I was more into the cinematography then the story. Actually, I really do not like Kristen Stewart as an actress (but I did like her as Joan Jett in The Runaways) and all the hype it had gotten so my involvement was minimal. At work we would call that Strategically Compliant: I did what was expected of me to do but I did not put forth much effort or involvement.

So my question to you is…what movie (or series) have you watched that you really had no desire to watch, but figured everyone else has so you might as well watch it before you die? That was a mouthful huh? You know what I mean….

Share you stories. You are not alone! LOL

Monday, June 1, 2015

Bye Bye Birdies

Today is the first day of the last week of school.

I never thought it would get here and now I am sad that it has. Anyone else feel that way? I have had my little chickadees for a year. A year of getting to know them, their habits, their hobbies, their idiosyncrasies. And now I have to let go and let my little birdies fly.

I'll be honest, starting this school year I wasn't happy to be changing what I was doing. You know me, I like my box and I don't like change. But after I was in it, I got into it! There was a little more leeway for teaching but it was even stricter because of the goals that must be accomplished by each student.

This group of kids were fantastic! I think it had to be an anomaly. I mean, they all got along, hardly any drama and most were here everyday! That is saying something. The kiddos I taught were behind in their credits and now they are leaving on track to graduate next year! This may have been the most work any of them have done or even cared about doing!

I may not have children, but every student (whether good or bad) are like my students. It is sad to see them leave. It feels like I am kicking them out of the nest to be able to fly on their own, never to return. How do mama birds do it?

I have the rest of this week to bank as many memories as I can with them. June 5 is coming WAY to fast!

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