Valentine's Day Thoughts
Valentine's Day is a few days away. LT has been asking me what do I want (a ring...hello?!).Maybe this year we don't do anything on Valentine's Day, but do something another day, maybe the 15th. My thought is... Wouldn't you rather
a) be romanced more than one day a year?
b) put all that energy into your birthday celebration a few days after Valentine's Day?
c) save your money for a spring break trip (or a ring...hint hint!)?
d) all of the above
If you chose D...DING, DING DING, We have a winner!! Sorry, I don't have any prizes to give out, just tips. Disclaimer: I am not a relationship expert. I have no degree in psychology. I do not profess to be knowledgeable in love or relationships. This is my personal opinion that reflects my life and what LT and I work on to work on us.
Tip 1: Plan a monthly Valentine's Day. Just a day for you and your other in which you can show your love. This could look like dinner out without the kids (sorry Gavin!), an adventure/day trip, a picnic at home, or maybe even finishing up the honey do list that has been neglected.
Tip 2: This is silly, but LT and I do this, please don't judge. When we are out hiking and it starts to snow, or we are viewing a Chihuly exhibit at the Arboretum at night or even when we are playing putt putt (yes, I usually win), we will say "A kiss to remember this!" and just do a little peck. It's silly, I know! And he will be mortified if he know I put this here! Shhhh, don't tell.
|LT and I|
Tip 3: Appreciate each other! Tell each other what you appreciate about them. Whatever it is, no matter the importance, remember to appreciate your other. I feel this is another way to show your love. You are focusing on the positives and not the negatives. It is easy to look at the bad or to say what is wrong. Put your energy into the positives.
Tip 4: Find out each others "love language" and work on talking their language. LT and I are working on this. Wouldn't it be nice to be able to speak the others "language" and not get upset because they don't speak your language? Think of the less stress you both will be under, the more positive you will be to each other, and the more energy you will have focusing on your moving your relationship forward not tearing it and each other down.
|Take a love survey at http://www.5lovelanguages.com|
So as Valentine's Day approaches, just enjoy being with each other, your family, your friends. Life is what you make of it. LT has to work this year for Valentine's Day so we have to more creative because we can't spend that day together. Does it mean we don't love each other any less? No. It means you show your love any where, any way you can.
This year I will be celebrating the day of love with Gavin. We will be hanging out at home and I'll treat myself to dinner out. I wonder what LT has planned for our time?
So what is your Valentine's Day going to look like? Or even what is your most memorable Valentine's Day?